To be true to yourself, you cannot only play pretend. You need to acknowledge your emotions in order to work on improving yourself and reach that Authentic Self that is you, who you are.
Accepting to hear the negative emotions can allow you to find those hidden desires, the ones coming from the heart helping you to become authentic. The ones your ego-based mind might keep you from seeing or believing that you can desire them.
I am inviting you to use a negative emotion and do an introspection by going underneath that emotion to discover the hidden desire. Look into your belief system to update it and renew it; to see if it resonates with you, not who you were before. Desires also go through updates, not because desires changed, but because there might have been some ego details added to them.
Take the time to free yourself from convictions that you have adopted from others, but that are not in harmony with your Authentic Self making you feel torn inside, and making you feel confused.
Under a negative emotion is a misalignment, the non-said that screams to come out and seek your attention again. A desire deep that wants to see the light. And I say again because to create a misalignment, it took a few bumps on the road allowing this misalignment. And yes, I voluntarily used the word allowing instead of causing, because you simply had to get to this misalignment to now be aware of it. Some people are the don’t-fix-it-if-it-is-not-all-broken type. And some people are learn-to-live-with-it type. Both prefer not to take the time to be aware and play pretend that nothing is going on instead of believing in their hidden desires.
Meditation, alone time, silence, and personal retreat can allow such introspection. Allow yourself to take the time to see some hidden desires under your negative emotions.
While some can do this on their own, others might need help to identify what seems impossible to sort out. You can still do this very simply just by being aware of what you desire under a negative emotion. This can only come from yourself. The misalignment is you not acknowledging it.
It might require courage as it will ask you to open the lid over what might have been pushed down. Allow yourself to feel that negative emotion just to see what is hides. Be aware of it. Take the time to list one or a few and look underneath it.
In holistic therapies, when we treat the most visible problem, the one for which a person often consults, once this problem is resolved, an older problem that might have supposedly been taken care of resurface. It was simply buried under another problem, another emotion.
The first thing I have learned when practicing naturopathy is that problems are like wastes in a big bin. The top one comes out first, and when the top one is out, there is now something else on top, and then what is under will get on top when its turn comes up, and so on, until you get to the bottom of the bin.
An introspection is like that garbage can, and emotions like the trash that have piled up over time.
The more you will work on deepening your Inner Self connection and discovering who you are underneath all of those ego-based emotions, seeing what those hidden desires under those negative emotions are, the closer you will get to living in harmony with your Self.
Remember to Breathe in, let go of your ego-based thoughts and vision, see from your Soul and Love Out.
Dr. Nathalie 🙂
(Note: This is an edited version 2022. I am editing each blog article to bring them into their book form correcting typos and adding little things here and there to make the content complete. I thought it would better reflect its message in giving you the edited version.)
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